The Kicked Out Anthology has been featured in National Gay News’ ” 2009: A Sneak Peak at the Trans Year to come”


SAVE The Last Non-Profit Feminist Bookstore in the States!

One of the first places I got my start as a writer was at ‘In Other Words’ books in Portland Oregon.  They were an important site of community to me as I was coming out as queer and discovering feminism.  In 2004 they honored me as one of that years top emerging writers.  Later, I spent two years running a monthly open-mic zine read called ‘the last word.’ To me they are an essential part of what Portland *is* but their value extends beyond that city of bridges.  In Other Words is the last remaining non-profit feminist bookstore in the United States, and now we are at risk of loosing them.

Below is their plea for help:

Dear friends,

In Other Words, like so many of our fellow bookstores, has fallen upon incredibly hard financial times. With the decline in our current economy, we have experienced severely decreased revenue. If we are unable to raise $11,000 by the end of December, In Other Words will have to close its doors.

We desperately need your help. We are confident that if everyone who cares about In Other Words makes a contribution, large or small, we will meet our goal. Please give as generously as you can to save the last remaining non-profit, feminist bookstore in the country: the place where so many Portland artists, activists, organizers, readers, writers, political thinkers, musicians and poets find their voice, their power, their community, and their political home.

Our community cannot afford to lose In Other Words, please help us save her!

You can make your tax-deductible donations by clicking the link at , or by stopping into the store.

Please forward this widely to your community, we need all the help we can get!

Sincerely, The Board, Staff and Volunteers of In Other Words

Be the Revolution this Holiday Season! Gift Giving that Gives Back to your community

to my kicked out family…

Thanksgiving is a hard day for many queer folks who feel pressured to spend the day with biological family who don’t accepted them, and for those who have been disowned by their families the day is even harder. For me Thanksgiving was once a reminder of everything that I didn’t have; parents, a family, a home.

I feel so phenomenally thankful that now it’s a day filled with my loving little chosen family. All day as I’ve ruminated on how thankful I am, I’ve also spent time thinking about my extended kicked out family; those on the streets, in foster care, sitting alone in an apartment longing for a family, and everyone lucky enough to be spending the day with chosen family.

To those for whom this day has been difficult, please know there are people who care about you. Someday I envision a big thanksgiving feast for the misfits, freaks, and the queers without biological families. I believe that building chosen family is one of the most radical and important things that any of us can do and I just want to say that I consider every one of you part of mine. I feel thankful for each of you. Take care of yourselves, and know there are people in the world who love you.

OUT History

As man of you know, I’m a huge LGBTQ history freak! Thus, I’m sure you can understand my excitement about having my work included on the incredible new resource site!

Visit my page to get a sneak peak at GSA to Marriage: Stories of a Life Lived Queerly and while you are there check out the incredible historical artifacts present! 

Sassafras on Zinecore Radio!

Zinecore Radio Show asked me to talk about my history as an active zinester my transition to author and about both ‘GSA to Marriage: Stories of a Life Lived Queerly’ and ‘Kicked Out’ I’m the second guest on the show, and you can listen to the entire show here! <br><br>

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speaking in memory of Lawrence King


On Friday I was one of the speakers at the NYC Day of Silence/Vigil for Lawrence King that was held at the very packed Christopher Street Park. It was a truly incredible experience to be surrounded by so many youth and adults who are committed to making the world a better place for queer folks, and especially youth. There was not a person in attendance who had not been touched by the tragic death of Lawrence King. His death has rekindled the spirits of students and activists working to end the unique bullying culture which has been permitted to continue within American classrooms. The thing that first stuck out to me when I heard of the murder of Lawrence King, and wht has continued to haunt me is that he lived in a group home for abused and neglected children. Lawrence was part of the estimated 40% of homeless youth in the United States who are LGBTQ identified. Despite the broad attention Lawrence’s death has received (particularly in light of Day of Silence being dedicated to his memory this year) there has continued to be a media and community silence about Lawrence’s homelessness, this is what I spoke about on Friday evening, and the need for this death to be seen as a community call to action to end the epidemic of queer youth homelessness. A few moments after I spoke a pastor was brought to the stage, and the park became awash with the light from glowsticks. I am sure that the choice to use glowsticks was brought on by a lack of ability to get a permit for candles, and yet it seemed somehow fitting. <br><br>

A video of me speaking can be viewed here

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Sassafras to speak at Friday’s NYC Vigil for Lawrence King/ Day of Silence !

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Break the Silence! Community Vigil in Memory of Lawrence King and other LGBTQ Youth Victims of Violence

Christopher Street Park (Manhattan)

Friday April 25


I am thrilled and honored that I have been invited to be one of the speakers at the NYC break the silence rally/memorial for Lawrence King this Friday. I was forced to leave home at 17 because I am queer, and now as an adult and the editor of the Kicked Out anthology I believe that one of the most important things to remember about Lawrence’s tragic death was that like so many of the youngest members of our community he had been forced to leave home and that as a part of him not dying in vain will be for on a community level to reform the ways in which we think about homeless LGBTQ youth.




The National Day of Silence brings attention to anti-LGBT name-calling, bullying and harassment in schools. This year’s event will be held in memory of Lawrence King, a California 8th-grader who was shot and killed Feb. 12 by a classmate because of his sexual orientation and gender expression. Hundreds of thousands of students will come together on April 25 to encourage schools and classmates to address the problem of anti-LGBT behavior.



The NYC event at Christopher Street Park is being organized and supported by Safe Horizon, the New York City Anti-Violence Project, GLSEN, the New York Civil Liberties Union, SCO Family of Services, the Ali Forney Center, Hispanic AIDS Forum, the LGBT Community Center, the Hetrick-Martin Institute and others.