March is women’s history month. As some of you might know or have guessed, I have such a strange relationship to “woman” as an identity. It doesn’t ever quite feel right, and yet there is something not entirely wrong about it. I think to me woman feels like a pair of boots that are ½ a size too small. It’s not all wrong, yet no matter how long I wear them or try to break them in they will always rub wrong in places. I’ve been thinking a lot about my relationship to the term “woman” this month because I’m really humbled and honored that I was included in the Women’s History Month exhibit at the Long Island LGBT Center.
I am still SHOCKED that my name was put in by someone as a possibility to consider let alone that my name made the list and I’m on display at the community center! One of my favorite things about the experience though is that I was asked if I would feel comfortable being included in their WOMEN’S history month. My response was that while I don’t necessarily identify as a woman, but I do hold a strong connection/relationship to dyke as an identity and to dyke culture, which makes me feel comfortable being connected to women’s focused things even if “woman” isn’t how I would go about defining my gender, and if they felt comfortable including me given all that, then I would be honored to be included. Not only did they include me, but they without question used my correct pronouns (ze/hir)! I don’t make a huge deal about pronouns most of the time, I know that I live in a world where gender nonconforming pronouns are seen as confusing and cumbersome, and mostly I just let it slide, but when folks get it right? That means so much to me, especially in the context of something like Women’s History Month.
The news was shared on Facebook/Twitter, and I had a few folks privately contact me/ask me how I felt about being included in something specific for women. I wanted to share the exciting news here on my blog, but I also wanted to make clear that this is something I’m really excited about, and explain a little more about how gender works for me, and how that connects to the work that I do in the world. I”m beyond honored to be included in this, shocked comes to mind, and I love that youth and others at the Long Island LGBT Center who are looking at the exhibit will get to see a genderqueer person as part of a month that they might feel complicated relating to!