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I feel like anything I was going to say about what I’ve been writing in January is so much less important than  everything happening politically in the country and the ripple effect around the world. It’s scary, and overwhelming and I’m trying each day to find balance and clarity about what I can do to resist,  and stay sane, and functioning in this new and scary world.
I wrote my column for Curve magazine about how sometimes all you can do is just pet the dog 
I spent most of the month working on preparing to go down to DC for the AWP conference where I’ll be on a panel talking about the the influence zines have had on my writing. More info about the panel here . I’ve never been before – very curious to see what I end up thinking of it. I’m sure I’ll be posting LOTS on social media
I got the chance to participate in visual artist Ketch Wehr’s new Visual Resistance project pairing my words with his art. This is a short piece I wrote and posted online the day of the inauguration – it was really cool to see it illustrated today just in time to include here. The world is a scary place right now, and I believe  we’re all doing the very best we can <3
Dec 312016

WHAT. A MONTH. no really, WHAT. A MONTH. I was going to write a whole fancy blog about the month, and closing out 2016 but…. it’s new years eve and I haven’t written that yet so here’s what i’ve got about this month  in list form…..

  • Christmas was AMAZING! It’s my all time favorite time of the year and full of so much little and leather magic in my family. Santa called me on the phone 4 times and sent me 2 videos, plus advent calendar tsum tsum boxes – and i was on the nice list. i LOVE santa!
  • I was a Semi-Finalist for the Saints & Sinners Short Fiction contest with my story “The Saint of Overlook Mountain.” The story did not move onto the next round though which was disappointing. That said I’m pretty excited about this story both for what it is as a shortish (almost 10,000 words) and the thought that maybe i would turn it into a novel? something to think about for the new year!
  • This month I released A Little Queermas Carol and got to personally send copies out to readers who ordered all over the world. I wrapped each one in festive wrapping paper because I wanted to send everyone a little bit of a gift. I’ve loved getting little messages all month from readers about what they thought!
  • My favorite book that I read this month has to be Jeanette Winterson’s new christmas book! I had no idea that she loved christmas as much as I do – I also got a little geeky love that we both released christmas books this year. I was given my copy and it is BEAUTIFUL cloth bound with silver art including a unicorn by a sweet sweet friend. I also finished the year reading a total of 96 books! This meant I surpassed my Goodreads goal of reading 50 books this year. woot! Check out what I read, and what I thought of those books here
  • Banal & Profane at Lambda is one of my favorite columns about writing because it really showcases a week in the life of authors.  So often in other places there is a lot of mysticism about how writers write, or what our lives look like. I like how this column breaks some of that down and was thrilled to get the chance to write it this December! I definitely tried tried for authenticity with mine and trying to depict all the different things that i am juggling as an author – hate mail, ridiculous schedules, muggle job,  etc. etc. check it out here
  • USA TODAY’s romance section covered the release of A Little Queermas Carol in this fun little interview! Check it out here
  • This month my partner and I bought a house. Ok so it’s been in the works for a couple of months but we closed mid-December and moved in a couple of days after Christmas. The house is a little further out in Brooklyn than we were before and has a lot more space and a backyard! It’s pretty amazing. I wrote an article at Dogster about it which is a short version of why we made this big move in large part for our dogs. Check that out here
  • Moving is INTENSE – it hits all of my anxious buttons and all my triggers about housing instability and homelessness. the move has so far (other than almost knocking my front tooth out) pretty smoothly. I started writing this sitting in the empty house waiting for the movers to bring all of our stuff (hiring movers is seriously worth EVERY penny) and now it’s new years eve and I’m finishing this post sitting at my desk in my 1/2 unpacked little land with glowing unicorn lights in my window of my very own little office surrounded by my toys and special things looking at our neighbors christmas lights!
  • Leather Ever After was dropped by its publisher – I found out from a reader which really sucked. I got this news actually on the first day of our move and so had little capacity other than to email all the contributors and be annoyed about it on social media. i have a lot of decisions to make about this book next year around how/if I will get it back in print. i’m giving myself until January to make any decisions about that. the book got an honorable mention in the leather writing awards and has some of the best writers in kink in it’s pages. There has been some interest from publishers so…. we’ll see- more coming soon!
  • I poked and poked and poked at the start of my new novel. One of my big goals for 2017 is to have a completed draft by the end of the year. knowing how I write that seems reasonable – and exciting. Before I got super busy with moving I was starting to hit my flow with this book – and the characters were beginning to really make sense to me. I’m looking forward to playing with them next year!
  • I HAVE A PO BOX!!! I love getting reader mail and have for years wanted to get a PO Box to simply that process and I FINALLY did it! I love that i have that little gold key on my keychain (with a cute elephant keycap on it) and I hope that you’ll fill my mailbox with letters! I’ll write back!

Sassafras Lowrey
PO Box 346
New York, NY 10276


Also- here are 16 of my favorite things that happened in 2016 (not in any order) – many of which I already wrote about here over the past year.
1. Disney World
2. Being on a panel with Dorothy Allison at Saints & Sinners
3. Lost Boi being a Lammy Finalist
4. Wearing a punk princess dress to the lambda literary awards even though I lost
5. Buying our new house
6. Releasing a Little Queermas Carol
7. Meeting Stitch at Disney and showing him my tattoo
8. My minion Birthday cake Daddy baked me
9. Summer school with Charlotte
10. Swimming in Ptown with Mercury in his floaty
11. (Finally) getting promoted at my muggle job
12. Hillary Clinton
13. Charlotte playing in her new yard
14. Laughing and being silly with Daddy
15. Watching Kiss~Me and See Ya grow up
16. Seeing a real alligator in the bayou in New Orleans
17: all the books I read this year!




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Dec 012016

It’s official my novella –  A Little Queermas Carol has released!!!! I’m so excited to share this book with the community, especially other littles and queers. I’ve always wanted a christmas story that was just for us – and clearly that meant I needed to write it myself! I’ve been so thrilled with the initial response to the project! You can order signed copies from me, as well as ebooks! It’s now available on all the bookstore sites as well

13900096_10209063222273879_5856216484147681029_nThe official release for the novella is this Friday, December 2nd here in NYC at Bluestockings Bookstore. I’ll be joined by the fabulous Laura Antiniou and Ashely Young! It’s going to be a very fun, very festive night. If you are in the NYC area I hope you’ll come join us! In light of the state of the world I almost canceled the release but, I believe right now we need queer books more than ever, and we also need joy, and fun. And so not just in spite of, but in many ways because of the horrific election results, we are moving forward with this night of queer holiday storytelling.

The very first review of A Little Queermas Carol ran the day after the election – right at a moment where I was creatively feeling very dark. The review highlighted for me some of the unintentional ways that this was exactly the project that I should be working on right now given the state of the world  http://www.cuntext.com/2016/reading-in-cuntext-little-queermas-carol/ my favorite quote from it might be: “we need our Daddies and our babygirls and our roommates and the rest of our chosen and queer and leather families: because family has always been how queer folks have built safety and refuge, because our families have also been the seed of our movements, and because our families are where we have space for imperfection and for resilience within that.”

Ive been doing a fair amount of writing this month and hope to be able to share more about where some of those stories have been placed soon,  but I also had a few pieces of writing get published:

Polaris Project released a new report  “Breaking Barriers: Improving Services for LGBTQ Human Trafficking Victims” https://polarisproject.org/blog/2016/11/16/staying-safe-new-resource-helps-lgbtq-youth-protect-themselves-human-trafficking  I was very surprised when a reader contacted me congratulating me on having writing in the report! Unknown to me they republished some writing that I had done for the Center For American Progress’ report “Seeking Shelter: The Experiences and Unmet Needs of LGBT Homeless Youth”  about the importance of youth created spaces for homeless LGBTQ youth, and the role that chosen/created family played in my own life https://www.americanprogress.org/issues/lgbt/reports/2013/09/26/75746/seeking-shelter-the-experiences-and-unmet-needs-of-lgbt-homeless-youth/   Both organizations are doing great work that is totally worth checking out.

The November installment of my monthly queer pets column at Curve magazine focused on my dogs adorable halloween costumes,  gender norms, and what it’s like to be  queer people with furry kiddos. You can read Queer Pets/Queer Guardians here http://www.curvemag.com/Advice/Queer-Pets-Queer-Guardians-1603/

I did my first  interview for the release of “A Little Queermas Carol” this month as part of  author Lee Harrington’s podcast (during which I got to wear my grumpybear onsie – don’t all authors do interviews in their jammies? You can listen to our conversation here http://passionandsoul.libsyn.com/

I’m in the process of wrapping up my LGBT Fiction reading group I’ve been facilitating at The Center for Fiction – it’s unreal how fast the fall has gone – only one session left! It’s been really fun to have the chance to have conversations with the group about some great queer texts, especially during this political moment. Speaking of, I honestly don’t even know how to talk about the election here. It’s no secret I was/am a HUGE Hillary supporter. I’m pretty devastated by the election results. After I fell apart in a blanket fort, the pieces of me felt like they snapped back together and I remembered that we know how to do this. We have lived through governments that hated us. We know how to do this.

14915397_10210060192597514_8657375280120770158_nThankfully November also brought our much anticipated Disney World vacation – exactly what i needed . My Daddy and I went to Mickey’s Christmas Party, had lunch at the Beast’s castle, and breakfast with Pooh Bear and friends! We had ice cream every day, rode ALL THE RIDES, saw so many characters, i did autographs for the first time this trip- by far one of the highlights was getting to meet Stich who is one of my all time favorite characters.When I met Stitch I got to tell him how much I love him, and showed him my “still good ” tattoo that is in reference

I have slowly started  to write again and thinking solidly about what my next big project is going to be. Queermas Carol was a little indie side project so I don’t feel the need to take time off from writing like I did post the release of Lost Boi. I’ve been working on some short form pieces – one of which was just accepted into an anthology (more on that when I can go public with the news). and I’ve also been looking at the outline for a novel I completed a couple years ago and then shelved – parts of the story are pretty intriguing to me right now…….. more to come!

movies – i saw SO MANY MOVIES in November ok just two in the theater but for me that’s a lot. I can’t say enough good things both about Fantastic Beasts – it was much queerer than I expected, it’s also pretty much a Hufflepuff dream come true. i’m a Hufflepuff and it’s cool to see JK Rowling playing with her universe but outside of  Harry Potter era. Now lets talk Moana- ok so no secret i’m a HUGE disney fan but this film is incredible. i’ve been listening to the soundtrack [pretty nonstop since leaving the theater LOVE LOVE LOVE it! Truly Disney at their best. if you haven’t seen this one yet, you DEFINITELY need to get yourself to the theater!

I have been holding pretty steady with my goal of reading a book a week this month (minus the week we were in Disney World – but I was able to make up for that another week). Favorite book I read this month was probably Michelle Tea’s Blackwave. If you haven’t read this one yet you definitely should pick it up! Friend me on Goodreads https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/3370128.Sassafras_Lowrey- I would love to see what you are reading! Reading a book a week means I’m always on the lookout for new and interesting things to read.

Did i mention i’m ready for christmas? Christmas! Christmas ! Christmas!  so so so ready!!! Daddy and I go to get our tree this weekend, and Santa called me on the PHONE and then he sent me special advent boxes and a letter! December is one of my favorite times of year – want to follow along with my very fun and little holiday adventures? Friend me on Facebook/Twitter/Tumblr/Instagram/Fetlife



bye October

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Nov 042016


^^ This pretty much sums up exactly how I feel in this moment! That said, my October was pretty awesome – i hope yous was too!
Highlight of the month for me was going to the pumpkin patch! That’s really my favorite part of October. I was going to dress up as my favorite Disney princess Venelope from Wreck It Ralph but the month got away from me and I wasn’t able to actually finish my costume which is a bummer – i guess it means i have a head start on next Halloween?
I did at least finish the Halloween costumes for my dogs – which probably was more important anyway! Mercury was Rainbow Dash, and Charlotte was Dash’ pet turtle Tank. Unfortunately there aren’t as many obsessive my little pony fans as I thought and EVERYONE in the park thought that Charlotte was a Ninja Turtle ::sigh:: Regardless they looked pretty adorable and were very amenable to being dressed up for their haloween weekend walks.
dinotopia_laft_coverI’ve been doing a pretty good job keeping up with reading a book a week – by far my favorite read of October was Dinotopia. I’m not really sure how I hadn’t ever read this book given my deep love of all things dinosaurs! Keep up with what I’m reading by following me on Goodreads! i love seeing what all of you are reading too!
The bummer of the month was getting the news that my book proposal to write a nonfiction book looking at the experiences of dog guardians who are experiencing homelessness did not win a book deal at BarkTank. I suppose the good thing here is that clearly my proposal was strong – since I was one of five finalists so if I decide that I really want to write that book it might be worth trying to shop it around to agents/publishers. Before this contest I hadn’t given much thought to the idea of writing a nonfiction book right now and i’m nto sure its’ the literary path that’s calling my name, but it’s nice to know it’s an option on the table.
I also did quite a lot of short form writing this month for a few different publications:
kink-logoThe Rumpus INSERT PICTURE I was the featured story on The Rumpus as part of their (K)ink column which spotlights different leather writers exploring the role that kink/leather plays in our personal and literary lives. I wrote a pretty intimate piece exploring the role of ageplay in my personal life and how that contributes to the ways in which I do queer world building on the pages of my novels.
Curve Column : my monthly pet column this month explored the intersections of queer rights and animal rights focused on the Montreal Pitbull ban. It was illustrated with lots of adorable pitbull photographs crowdsourced from my buddies on social media!
Dogster: This summer my dog Charlotte and I took an intensive online training class – it was fantastic and I got to review it on Dogster.
Stay turned for more! I had a few deadlines this month and expect that those stories will go up online at various outlets soon.
Preorders for A Little Queermas Carol are open! Be sure to reserve your copy now if you want to get a signed copy before it offocialy releases! I’m really excited to get to share this fun little project with all of you! I did my first interview about the novella last week, and have a few more reviews/interviews scheduled over the next couple of weeks – it’s a really fun project!
I have also scheduled a release event at Bluestockings Bookstore here in NYC. I’ll be joined in sharing holiday readings by fabulous leather writers Laura Antionou and Ashley Young! It’s going to be such a fun night – we’re even going to have a little Christmas tree for everyone to trim! If you’re in the area I hope to see you there! 13900096_10209063222273879_5856216484147681029_nHere are links to FB event page  Fetlife event page
I think that November is going to be a bit of a whirlwind. There is of course the election where I am SO EXCITED to vote for my favorite Nasty Woman. I can’t wait to see her in the white house
It’s also just a few days before my partner and I go to Disney World!!! I have been counting down for this vacation literally for hundreds of days – I CAN’T WAIT! Disney is a really special sacred place to me and I’m really looking forward to being in that intensely magical and little focused space. We’re going to be in the parks for 4 days and attending Mickey’s Very Merry Christmas Party! i’ll post LOTS of pictures on my various social media pages Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, Instagram – if you aren’t friends with me there please add me!
Oct 102016

pre-orderHaven’t you always wanted a christmas book by and for leather queers? Now we have one! Be the first to get your copy of celebrated queer author Sassafras Lowrey’s christmas novella!!!!



“Marley was dead. Unable to cope, Ebe wields their politics as a excuse to deny their desire for a Leather family. Trauma and imagination come to life through visions of drag queens and dolls, while Leather Daddies bake holiday cookies in this tender queer reimagined Christmas tale.”

If you’re planning to purchase a copy of A Little Queermas Carol for yourself, as a gift for the cute queer you’re crushed out on, your best friend, your ex, your play partners, your dungeon or punkhouse library (the possibilities are endless) I’m asking for you to do it now directly from me. These pre-orders are my primary opportunity to recoup all the money that I put into publishing the novella which included: hiring an artist to design the cover, professional copyediting, and a layout person to make this project look and feel like a real and beautiful book. When you purchase books as part of the pre-orders not only are you going to be supporting me as an indie author you’ll be getting a signed copy of A Little Queermas Carol delivered to you before it hits the bookstore shelves!!!

Pre-orders will ship in late November, will be signed and festively wrapped. Slip “A Little Queermas Carol” into the stocking of your favorite leather friend, or get a copy for yourself!




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Oct 082016

I’m finally allowed to share my exciting news from earlier this week! A nonfiction book I outlined about people experiencing homelessness with their dogs has been chosen as a FINALIST in the competition to win a book deal at BarkWorld!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Oct 042016

October is here which pretty much for me is just the month known as Halloween!! and that means pumpkins and knee socks and hoodies! Autumn in NYC is one of my favorite times of year!

September was a super busy month for me, probably a little bit too busy. I spent most of the month working on some pretty intensive deadlines. For most of September  I was  wrapping up 5 major applications/submissions that were all due within about a week of each other! I’m in a phase of my writing where I’m trying to figure out my next big project so trying to throw a lot of  literary spaghetti at walls in hopes that something good will stick makes a lot of sense. I’m really pleased with all the work I did this month, but I did learn (again) that overextending myself that far isn’t very sustainable so I don’t plan to have that kind of deadlines schedule again anytime soon! I also read/blurbed a fabulous booking that will be releasing soon- September was packed!
September wasn’t all work – I actually fit a WHOLE LOT of really amazing fun adventures with my little family. We started the month with going upstate for labor day weekend staying in a tiny cottage with a sleeping loft, a campfire, and a stream for our dogs to play in right in the “backyard.” it was paradise and just the kind of relaxation I needed!  I also got an awesome pink pterodactyl puppet – who hopefully will be making more appearances on my social media pages in he coming weeks. 14192770_10209358571497425_271834378576941386_n
We also (thanks to Kestryl’s amazing good luck) and persistence scored tickets to the sold out Museum of Ice Cream – i have two words for you, SPRINKLE POOL! it was awesome.  we also checked out 29 rooms which is a huge artinstillation part of fashion week, and got to play in a panda themed ball pit, and finally late in the month we continued our annual tradition of going apple picking! yum!
September also brought the first session of my LGBT fiction reading group at The Center For Fiction. for our first session we read “Under the Udalla Trees” and had a fantastic discussion about the novel!  For this month the group will be reading “God In Pink” — can’t wait to hear with the participants think about it!
In September and thanks to my library card, I was successful with keeping up my 2016 personal reading challenge of reading a book a week – all of which I chronicle over on GoodReads (friend me to see what I’m reading!). My favorite things I read this month: “Poor Unfortunate Souls” (if you like cheesy but well done Disney stories – this is a great one) I also really enjoyed “Hot Dog Taste Test” which surprised me because I was afraid it would be too…. foodie? literary? idk and I really liked “Art Thinking”   which was an author with a full time day job really resonated with me. My least favorite thing I read this month was probably “Animals” and “We Should All Be Feminists” both of whom were big disappointments.
In September I finalized reviewing and approving print [proofs of “A Little Queermas Carol” my novella which will be releasing this autumn, just in time to add to your Christmas lists!!!!!!! I have the final proof in hand and it looks BEAUTIFUL.KD Diamond did a great job on bringing my vision for the cover art to life, I can’t wait to share it with all of you! Pre-order information will be posted here in the next few weeks, and mark your calendars now if you’re in NYC. I’ll be having a release event at Bluestockings Bookstore on Friday, December 2nd with special guest readings from Laura Antiniou and Ashley Young!!!
It’s a little unbelievable that this little novella project was able to come toghter into a real little book in time for Christmas this year – i’m so excited to share it with allof you, especially thequeer/leather/littles amongst you!!! 13900096_10209063222273879_5856216484147681029_n
October is going to be a fun month – it’s pumpkins and halloween (i’m busily working on crafting my halloween costume) and i *think * i know what both my dogs will be dressing up as! I also have some exciting articles that I have been working hard on that will be going to press this month! I’ll be sure to link to on my facebook/twitter !!!
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Summer is over! I mean it’s still a sauna here in NYC but I’m convinced that the end of August means the end of summer! This past month has been hot, and good, and super busy! I saw these pumpkins being unloaded in Chinatown earlier this week, so autumn better hurry up and get here!

In August  I finished editing my novella A Little Queermas Carol and got print proofs in the mail! They look awesome other than that I sent the WRONG version of the manuscript to be laid out! I feel like a total idiot, but it did give me a chance to do one more deep edit on the project. Thankfully the person doing my layout still has time to work on it and the novella will be relaid out in time to not have any impact on the release date!!! Woot!

I’m really excited about getting to share this project with all of you – it’s quirky, queer and fun! I’m especially excited that it centers ageplay/littles within the queer/little story without being erotic!  Keep checking back for pre-order information – I expect to open that up in early October!



I’m thrilled to announce that the NYC lease of A Little Queermas Carol will happen at Bluestockings Bookstore: Friday, December 2nd 7pm

Info about fantastic guest readers coming very soon!!!

The election is on all of our minds, so this month my pet column at Curve Magazine was all about how to get your cats & dogs ready and decked out in Hillary gear check it out! I also had the chance to write an article for The Center For Fiction’s “Author Picks” series – mine was a roundup of Top Queer Fiction!  I have a few more articles I’ve been working on this month that should be releasing this autumn that I’ll be sure to post on my facebook/twitter when they get published! 

I’m going to be facilitating a LGBTQ FICTION reading group at The Center For Fiction starting mid-September.  I believe there are still a couple of open slots! If you’re interested, all the registration information can be found here

I’m still keeping up with my book a week reading goal for the year and tracking my progress over on Good Reads! I met my initial goal of reading 50 books this year and read a pretty solid mix of things this month. Definitely on the bottom of the  list would’ve  the new Harry Potter. Such a disappointment. Favorite things read this month were pretty eclectic. “Princess Celestia and the Summer of Royal Waves” was excellent (as has the second half of my little pony season 6), I also really enjoyed “Another Brooklyn” by Jacqueline Woodson and “Here Comes The Sun” by Nicole Y. Dennis-Benn. This week I’ve been stretching a little out of my comfort zone and giving suicide squad graphic novels a chance even though they are way too violent for me, because all my little leather buddies are obsessed.

I went and saw Ghostbusters in the theater and am pretty obsessed! WHO YA GONNA CALL?!??  the characters of Holtzman and Abby in particular really spoke to me. I think Abby is totally under appreciated in the way that fatnes and femmeness gets devalued. She’s totally rad – and I really can sympathize with her takeout issues! Give that ghostbuster a reasonable ratio of soup to wonton!


Besides sending the novella off to layout the big news from August was that my little dog Mercury celebrated his 14th birthday in August! He’s been my sidekick since he was 6 weeks old so this birthday felt like a big milestone! He celebrated with a meat cake!

I’m getting ready to log off the internet for a few days (well except for uploading cute pictures of my dogs to Instagram) to hang out in the mountains of upstate New York. I’ve been pushing myself hard this month to get a lot of different writing done, and I’m very much looking forward to a break with my family!


Aug 102016


Please check back for pre-order info coming soon!

13900096_10209063222273879_5856216484147681029_nMarley was dead. Unable to cope, Ebe wields their politics as a excuse to deny  their desire for a Leather family. Trauma and imagination come to life through visions of drag queens and dolls, while Leather Daddies bake holiday cookies in this tender queer reimagined Christmas tale.


Like the best Christmas gifts, Sassafras Lowrey’s fantasia of a story is delightful, heartfelt, and exactly what you were hoping for, even if you didn’t know it. Ze has created the perfect queer holiday stocking stuffer for everyone on your list, whether they’re naughty, nice, or something in between.”

—Michael Thomas Ford, author of Suicide Notes and Lily


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Aug 102016



This week AWP announced what panels have been accepted for the 2017 conference, and the panel I am included on “Bringing LGBTQ Folk Forms into Our Literature” (so honored to have been asked to be part of this!!!) was accepted!

I’ve never been to AWP before – for whatever reason (probably a whole lot of internalized imposter syndrome) I’ve always considered it to be a space that’s out of my league, or kinda just in a different stadium than the one I play (write?) in! So here I am humming “playing with the big boys now” from the prince of Egypt movie (because that’s how I manage my self doubt!)  and planning my trip down to the conference in February!

I had thought about just going down for the day of my panel, but the conference registration costs the same regardless of if I go for one day, or the whole conference soooooo I’m going to go for the whole experience. Daddy booked my hotel last night (because that kind of thing totally overwhelms me) since shockingly to me hotels close to the conference were already booking up! Daddy also reminded me there are pandas at the DC zoo, so I definitely am going to need to take a little field trip from AWP to visit some pandas!!!!

Have you ever been to AWP? I would love to hear from other queer writers about what your experience has been like, and any suggestions you have for making the most out of the conference would be very welcome! All of the accepted workshops look AMAZING- it definitely seems like the challenge will be deciding what to attend!!!