Feb 272011

Normally I review things like queer books, but this was a product I’ve fallen so deeply in love with, I couldn’t help myself from sharing with all of you.  I have really long hair, and while I enjoy the look of wearing it down I really hate it getting in my face, and like to keep it pulled back while commuting etc.

I needed some new hair clips and have been noticing these strange silicone ones making appearances in drugstores all over new york.  given that they were actually cheaper than the ones I would normally have bought I decided to give them a try.

Ok seriously, silicone is not just for sex anymore! Only with hair silicone is incredibly anti-slip which um…. yeah opposite of what I’d be looking for in the other scenario ;)

Essentially, I can’t recommend these enough, especially if like me you have hair thats slippery!  For those of you with longer hair, what are your favorite hair bands/clips etc. ?

Feb 052011

This month write about something you love about being a femme, or  something you love about femmes, or write about something that you love doing as a femme.  Essentially treat this prompt as a way to celebrate your love of femme as an identity and/or way of being in the world.

*** Disclaimer – i know that lots of folks hate Valentines day.  It’s not even a holiday that my partner and I celebrate, however pink and red is one of my favorite color combinations of all time, and i adore hearts aesthetically, and cherish love in general so…..

Jan 312011

I got tagged on facebook in the call for submissions for this FANTASTIC looking new zine by a couple of super rad femmes.  I LOVE the idea behind this and immediately started thinking about how my life on the road is all about fitting 4 days worth of clothes aka 8 + outfits plus 20 books into a suitcase that fits into an overhead bin ;)  Needless to say I’m going to be submitting a story to this, and I hope that a bunch of y’all will too!!!

Attention all Femmes that are strapped/poor/broke ass/working class Artists! Performers! Writers! Activists! Wanderers! Seekers!

We are looking for submissions for our zine compilation of stories and art from the road that we are calling Bus Fare To Kentucky.

Show us how do you feed yourself artistically and otherwise. How you afford plane tickets, train tickets and gas money. How you make it all fit in your suitcase. Show us your tour romances, hook ups, art inspiration and friends you made along the way. We want your struggle and your triumph. We want to know your hilarious, raunchy, heartbreaking and fierce stories of touring and traveling with your art (whatever that looks like for you) and making it work while maintaining your standard of Femme in the process.

We accept all visual art, photography, stories as long as it can be emailed. Stories must be submitted in Times 12 point single spaced. Art must be a reasonably high DPI and viewable on a Mac.

Femmes of any gender encouraged to submit. Tell your friends!

Deadline for this project is March 15th.

Please email kentuckybusfare@gmail.com.

Kiss Kiss,
Alysia Angel and Nicky Click

Jan 232011

Probably not a big surprise, but I spend a whole lot of time reading most things femme I come across on my internet wanderings.  This week I found a new tumbler because of a post that was getting quite a bit of attention with some of my facebook and twitter friends. The post is called ‘policing femme identity‘ essentially it’s conversation about if femme as an identity is inherently queer, who has a right to the word/identity etc. etc. etc.  It’s an interesting conversation, and one that I’ve seen come up quite frequently with varying outcomes in different femme & queer communities. In the post in question one of the points that stood out to me was:

“FEMME IS ABOUT RECLAMATION. FABULOUS, GLITTERED RECLAMATION. not about who you fuck/love, or how you identify outside of femme. i understand that some people feel that het cis women claiming femme is appropriative, but i whole heartedly disagree with this! part of the historical oppression of and by femininity has been its exclusive and inherent assignment to heterosexual cis women. for queersexual-identified femmes to not allow heterosexual-identified femmes to reclaim the identity of femme is to not allow a marginalized group to reclaim something that has been historically oppressive to them. these same ideas also often suggest that femininity is an inherent part of heterosexuality, or that it is simply “normal” to be het and feminine. that contradicts radical concepts of gender presentation not being inherently tied to sexuality.”

I personally take a different stance on this, and have a hard time agreeing that heterosexual cis women are the marginalized ones when in compared w/  queers. Then again, while I have ZERO interest in being the identity police and think anyone has a right to whatever identity they choose, and to have that identity respected I also tend to come down hard on the side of femme is a queer identity, is property of queer folks/culture and is inherently queer.  I guess I’ve always been a little bit of a queer separatist about this kind of stuff, and I’m alright with that.

I’m curious femmes guide readers, what do you think?  is femme inherently queer?

Jun 122008



PoMo Freakshow (Kestryl Cael and Sassafras Lowrey) will be performing as part of HOT! The 17th Annual Celebration of Queer Culture! at Dixon Place!


We will be performing a piece which is currently in development, Traitors without (T)reason, on JULY 14, 2008 at 8:00 p.m.



Don’t miss it.


Tickets will be $15.00 general / $12.00 students and seniors

Tickets are available online at dixonplace.org or at the door.




Stay tuned for more details, or check out Traitors without (T)reason in the PERFORMANCES section of this site!

Apr 192008

Announcing new collaborative work from Kestryl Cael and Sassafras!

Now officially in development, we have a new project titled Traitors without (T)reason:

You’re either with us or against us. The division is knee-jerk, with the marriage-craving mainstream lesbian and gay population on one side, and the queers seeking radical change on the other. The opposition is fiery, an inter-community battle that starkly divides a world into two camps. Crossing from one to the other, even temporarily, is hypocritical, tantamount to treason.

As a queer couple that passes as straight more often than we would like to admit, our performance seeks to perforate automatic attributions of privilege and complicate the community-enforced borders of queerness. Using movement, monologue, vignette, interaction, and a bit of personal experience, Traitors without (T)reason explores the themes of betrayal, privilege, invisibility, sacrifice, subversion, and loss that are inextricably tied into public passing.

Keep watching here for updates on when and where you’ll be able to see this exciting new collaborative piece!