Dec 312016

WHAT. A MONTH. no really, WHAT. A MONTH. I was going to write a whole fancy blog about the month, and closing out 2016 but…. it’s new years eve and I haven’t written that yet so here’s what i’ve got about this month  in list form…..

  • Christmas was AMAZING! It’s my all time favorite time of the year and full of so much little and leather magic in my family. Santa called me on the phone 4 times and sent me 2 videos, plus advent calendar tsum tsum boxes – and i was on the nice list. i LOVE santa!
  • I was a Semi-Finalist for the Saints & Sinners Short Fiction contest with my story “The Saint of Overlook Mountain.” The story did not move onto the next round though which was disappointing. That said I’m pretty excited about this story both for what it is as a shortish (almost 10,000 words) and the thought that maybe i would turn it into a novel? something to think about for the new year!
  • This month I released A Little Queermas Carol and got to personally send copies out to readers who ordered all over the world. I wrapped each one in festive wrapping paper because I wanted to send everyone a little bit of a gift. I’ve loved getting little messages all month from readers about what they thought!
  • My favorite book that I read this month has to be Jeanette Winterson’s new christmas book! I had no idea that she loved christmas as much as I do – I also got a little geeky love that we both released christmas books this year. I was given my copy and it is BEAUTIFUL cloth bound with silver art including a unicorn by a sweet sweet friend. I also finished the year reading a total of 96 books! This meant I surpassed my Goodreads goal of reading 50 books this year. woot! Check out what I read, and what I thought of those books here
  • Banal & Profane at Lambda is one of my favorite columns about writing because it really showcases a week in the life of authors.  So often in other places there is a lot of mysticism about how writers write, or what our lives look like. I like how this column breaks some of that down and was thrilled to get the chance to write it this December! I definitely tried tried for authenticity with mine and trying to depict all the different things that i am juggling as an author – hate mail, ridiculous schedules, muggle job,  etc. etc. check it out here
  • USA TODAY’s romance section covered the release of A Little Queermas Carol in this fun little interview! Check it out here
  • This month my partner and I bought a house. Ok so it’s been in the works for a couple of months but we closed mid-December and moved in a couple of days after Christmas. The house is a little further out in Brooklyn than we were before and has a lot more space and a backyard! It’s pretty amazing. I wrote an article at Dogster about it which is a short version of why we made this big move in large part for our dogs. Check that out here
  • Moving is INTENSE – it hits all of my anxious buttons and all my triggers about housing instability and homelessness. the move has so far (other than almost knocking my front tooth out) pretty smoothly. I started writing this sitting in the empty house waiting for the movers to bring all of our stuff (hiring movers is seriously worth EVERY penny) and now it’s new years eve and I’m finishing this post sitting at my desk in my 1/2 unpacked little land with glowing unicorn lights in my window of my very own little office surrounded by my toys and special things looking at our neighbors christmas lights!
  • Leather Ever After was dropped by its publisher – I found out from a reader which really sucked. I got this news actually on the first day of our move and so had little capacity other than to email all the contributors and be annoyed about it on social media. i have a lot of decisions to make about this book next year around how/if I will get it back in print. i’m giving myself until January to make any decisions about that. the book got an honorable mention in the leather writing awards and has some of the best writers in kink in it’s pages. There has been some interest from publishers so…. we’ll see- more coming soon!
  • I poked and poked and poked at the start of my new novel. One of my big goals for 2017 is to have a completed draft by the end of the year. knowing how I write that seems reasonable – and exciting. Before I got super busy with moving I was starting to hit my flow with this book – and the characters were beginning to really make sense to me. I’m looking forward to playing with them next year!
  • I HAVE A PO BOX!!! I love getting reader mail and have for years wanted to get a PO Box to simply that process and I FINALLY did it! I love that i have that little gold key on my keychain (with a cute elephant keycap on it) and I hope that you’ll fill my mailbox with letters! I’ll write back!

Sassafras Lowrey
PO Box 346
New York, NY 10276


Also- here are 16 of my favorite things that happened in 2016 (not in any order) – many of which I already wrote about here over the past year.
1. Disney World
2. Being on a panel with Dorothy Allison at Saints & Sinners
3. Lost Boi being a Lammy Finalist
4. Wearing a punk princess dress to the lambda literary awards even though I lost
5. Buying our new house
6. Releasing a Little Queermas Carol
7. Meeting Stitch at Disney and showing him my tattoo
8. My minion Birthday cake Daddy baked me
9. Summer school with Charlotte
10. Swimming in Ptown with Mercury in his floaty
11. (Finally) getting promoted at my muggle job
12. Hillary Clinton
13. Charlotte playing in her new yard
14. Laughing and being silly with Daddy
15. Watching Kiss~Me and See Ya grow up
16. Seeing a real alligator in the bayou in New Orleans
17: all the books I read this year!




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Dec 012016

It’s official my novella –  A Little Queermas Carol has released!!!! I’m so excited to share this book with the community, especially other littles and queers. I’ve always wanted a christmas story that was just for us – and clearly that meant I needed to write it myself! I’ve been so thrilled with the initial response to the project! You can order signed copies from me, as well as ebooks! It’s now available on all the bookstore sites as well

13900096_10209063222273879_5856216484147681029_nThe official release for the novella is this Friday, December 2nd here in NYC at Bluestockings Bookstore. I’ll be joined by the fabulous Laura Antiniou and Ashely Young! It’s going to be a very fun, very festive night. If you are in the NYC area I hope you’ll come join us! In light of the state of the world I almost canceled the release but, I believe right now we need queer books more than ever, and we also need joy, and fun. And so not just in spite of, but in many ways because of the horrific election results, we are moving forward with this night of queer holiday storytelling.

The very first review of A Little Queermas Carol ran the day after the election – right at a moment where I was creatively feeling very dark. The review highlighted for me some of the unintentional ways that this was exactly the project that I should be working on right now given the state of the world my favorite quote from it might be: “we need our Daddies and our babygirls and our roommates and the rest of our chosen and queer and leather families: because family has always been how queer folks have built safety and refuge, because our families have also been the seed of our movements, and because our families are where we have space for imperfection and for resilience within that.”

Ive been doing a fair amount of writing this month and hope to be able to share more about where some of those stories have been placed soon,  but I also had a few pieces of writing get published:

Polaris Project released a new report  “Breaking Barriers: Improving Services for LGBTQ Human Trafficking Victims”  I was very surprised when a reader contacted me congratulating me on having writing in the report! Unknown to me they republished some writing that I had done for the Center For American Progress’ report “Seeking Shelter: The Experiences and Unmet Needs of LGBT Homeless Youth”  about the importance of youth created spaces for homeless LGBTQ youth, and the role that chosen/created family played in my own life   Both organizations are doing great work that is totally worth checking out.

The November installment of my monthly queer pets column at Curve magazine focused on my dogs adorable halloween costumes,  gender norms, and what it’s like to be  queer people with furry kiddos. You can read Queer Pets/Queer Guardians here

I did my first  interview for the release of “A Little Queermas Carol” this month as part of  author Lee Harrington’s podcast (during which I got to wear my grumpybear onsie – don’t all authors do interviews in their jammies? You can listen to our conversation here

I’m in the process of wrapping up my LGBT Fiction reading group I’ve been facilitating at The Center for Fiction – it’s unreal how fast the fall has gone – only one session left! It’s been really fun to have the chance to have conversations with the group about some great queer texts, especially during this political moment. Speaking of, I honestly don’t even know how to talk about the election here. It’s no secret I was/am a HUGE Hillary supporter. I’m pretty devastated by the election results. After I fell apart in a blanket fort, the pieces of me felt like they snapped back together and I remembered that we know how to do this. We have lived through governments that hated us. We know how to do this.

14915397_10210060192597514_8657375280120770158_nThankfully November also brought our much anticipated Disney World vacation – exactly what i needed . My Daddy and I went to Mickey’s Christmas Party, had lunch at the Beast’s castle, and breakfast with Pooh Bear and friends! We had ice cream every day, rode ALL THE RIDES, saw so many characters, i did autographs for the first time this trip- by far one of the highlights was getting to meet Stich who is one of my all time favorite characters.When I met Stitch I got to tell him how much I love him, and showed him my “still good ” tattoo that is in reference

I have slowly started  to write again and thinking solidly about what my next big project is going to be. Queermas Carol was a little indie side project so I don’t feel the need to take time off from writing like I did post the release of Lost Boi. I’ve been working on some short form pieces – one of which was just accepted into an anthology (more on that when I can go public with the news). and I’ve also been looking at the outline for a novel I completed a couple years ago and then shelved – parts of the story are pretty intriguing to me right now…….. more to come!

movies – i saw SO MANY MOVIES in November ok just two in the theater but for me that’s a lot. I can’t say enough good things both about Fantastic Beasts – it was much queerer than I expected, it’s also pretty much a Hufflepuff dream come true. i’m a Hufflepuff and it’s cool to see JK Rowling playing with her universe but outside of  Harry Potter era. Now lets talk Moana- ok so no secret i’m a HUGE disney fan but this film is incredible. i’ve been listening to the soundtrack [pretty nonstop since leaving the theater LOVE LOVE LOVE it! Truly Disney at their best. if you haven’t seen this one yet, you DEFINITELY need to get yourself to the theater!

I have been holding pretty steady with my goal of reading a book a week this month (minus the week we were in Disney World – but I was able to make up for that another week). Favorite book I read this month was probably Michelle Tea’s Blackwave. If you haven’t read this one yet you definitely should pick it up! Friend me on Goodreads I would love to see what you are reading! Reading a book a week means I’m always on the lookout for new and interesting things to read.

Did i mention i’m ready for christmas? Christmas! Christmas ! Christmas!  so so so ready!!! Daddy and I go to get our tree this weekend, and Santa called me on the PHONE and then he sent me special advent boxes and a letter! December is one of my favorite times of year – want to follow along with my very fun and little holiday adventures? Friend me on Facebook/Twitter/Tumblr/Instagram/Fetlife